I never know my limits til now... Getting a job was never ever easy and having something good sure have a sacrifice for something else. Coming a long line of different jobs and doing different things have got me realise just 1 thing - I could never stay too long in a job now. The longest would be in LTA for 7.5 yrs, that was my 1st job as a clerical officer. After that, it was all sorts of different jobs in different industry facing all sorts of difficulties. I came to HP started as an Admin Executive in Sep last year & changing to a Partner Support Manager in Mar just this year.
Just after getting this recent position, I was thrilled to finally have the chance to "fly high" in a Fortune 500 MNC. It's ok for me to wake at 3.30am to start work @ 4.30am everyday in the morning. But never did I realise what kind of stuff were coming towards me... What I face everyday as a partner support manager is having more than 100 emails per day (I'm not joking, they're no good ones), partners from New Zealand practically "screaming" to be served first, getting their orders delivered ASAP, wanting everything, complaining of everything. Month end was the most "exciting" part, you get to go on concalls almost everyday, prepare backlog reports for each concall session which consists of 500 over orders remaining undelivered, investigating item by item. That's just the qty. What abt the amount in $$? Millions of NZ dollars involved. I've got 6 large partners and these are what I have to handle. Besides, I've got to work at home during non-working hours including weekends, just doing my best to clear my work. Did I mention my team is really short-handed? Only 3 of us managers handling the whole of NZ. All for the sake of a salary just enough to keep myself alive for a month. I'm not earning like the other managers are cos I'm only a contract staff.
Taking over the duties of a colleague who just left on Thu made me realise that she was indeed a supergirl. The amount of workload she handled was a complete hell. I cannot imagine how she could handle all these for 1 year. She was so bloody happy to be able to quit this job. All her stress has been relieved & put on me. Well, great huh! My colleagues including me, dislike my boss. By the way, he just gave me more work to do, on top of other things! I don't know how to voice out to him that I'm so stressed up right now.
I've got myself sick these few days. Had diarrhea last Thu, hurt my knee and was limping badly since last Sunday, had breathlessness since Wed & fainted after work on that day at my office lift lobby, knocked my head against the wall when I fainted, collapsed again last night at home. Now my chest feels really tight & breathing is really tough. Getting up & walk, I just feel like I'm carrying a heavy baggage of few hundred kilos & I'll start to feel really weak & dizzy. Doc just said I'm really stressed out. sigh..... what should I do? Quit? or continue this ultra-super stressful job? I've got a contract of 6 mths to fulfill... 3 months to commit. If I quit now, I've got to pay back 1 mth's salary. Not worth it. If i quit after May, it won't be so bad. But I don't know if my health can tolerate til then. My mom's really worried & I can't do much to get less worried. Cos my focus was to earn lots of $. I really thought I was able to do everything, that I can be supergirl as well, but my health is worsening at a fast rate. Vitamin M(oney) isn't gonna cure my health. Just yesterday, I received an email from my job agency saying that a contract staff who's working in HP as well, passed away from heart attack, leaving his wife & kids... deja vu? coincidental? a warning sign? I dunno. I don't wanna end up dead for the sake of dough. The moral of the story is don't ever fall in love with your company or your job.
 | Hope the situation improves May, please take care of your health, without it, nothing really matters, we're here to support you if you ever need it :) |
 | Take care May.. Work has always been thie way.. Just have to take things as it goes.. No point stressing over it and causing hazard to your health.. Hope you get well soon.. |
 | Hey May, dun overwork yourself. Since u cant quit, as such, work at the speed where you feel most comfortable cos your boss cant pin point you on that, if they do, jus sack you lor. As though, you scare hor. Dun ever waste yourself away in work, there are much more better things to do in life than that. Please do take good care of yourself. Don't let all your friends worried about you okay. |
 | JiaYou MJ =D
See what you can do and see what you can get away with =Þ |
 | I'll always remember you May.. A wonderful fren a cheerful n encouraging mate.. I'll miss you so much. :( |
 | It is so sad that you left us so soon, although I had only known you for a while, you strike me as a nice and sweet girl. Hope you can find peace and rest at last. |
 | We were supposed to meet soon. We were going to laugh over my wedding photos. It will never happen. And I truly regretted it. Today was the last I saw of u, May. I'm sorry it was supposed to be all smiles, but I cant compose myself. God Bless Your Soul. Rest In Peace, May Leong XOXOXO |
 | Hi May I just want to say may you find the much required rest after all this. God bless yr soul.
Jennifer |
 | Similar to my situation.. also contract job.. i felt so sad for her. May she rest in peace.. god bless.. |
 | may you rest in peace May. i may not know u personally, but i know that what u were feeling about your work has been the same for every working soul on earth...may your story remind everyone to take good care of one's health...
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 | eh tahoch she passed away already!! |
 | vpban wrote on Apr 27, '07 AS far as work is considered it has to be limited to cettain extent. If you have felt you have been over pressured, should point out to the boss or limit yourself. Now cannot say anything its all over. But other take it as a lesson. Money is not only life. It should always be sufficient enought for your needs. Know your needs and take a break when you need. |
 | guess that's nothing to do with the company ... so sad that she had such a bloody asshole manager who is so inhuman, inconsiderate, & selfish. |
| guess that's nothing to do with the company ... so sad that she had such a bloody asshole manager who is so inhuman, inconsiderate, & selfish. |
 | Pardon me, but i think the problem lies with herself. Her emphasis on work and money is her downfall. Every employee will have endless workload and deadlines to meet, but one must know how to prioritise your workload and prevent it from affecting ur health. If you allow ur boss and colleagues to walk all over you, then u wont have time for urself. Work is part of life, not the other way around. U think her boss will know/care how much work she is doing if she dont bother to explain herself or even if it affects her health? Only she knows her body. She would be a healthier person if she is in love with her job, instead of treating it as a means of getting money. |
| Her blog also conveniently forgot to mention something. Yes, she will have to pay back one months salary as a contract staff, but ONLY if she quits immediately on a days notice. If she gives one month notice, she dont need to pay back. During the one month, she would not have to work so hard liao. |
 | oh my...i reali feel for her..sigh. to all, do take care of yourself, health above anything else |
 | very sad... from her photos she seem so cheerful and happy. God bless her and her family.... :( |
 | chcho5, are you the boss that everyone disliked? You might be a small fly, but you do sound like someone from higher management.
Maybe you should channel your energy in defending the mgt, to helping the family of May. God bless! |
 | slls wrote on Apr 27, '07 I REALLY MISS U MAY, SHE IS A REALLY SOMEONE SPECIAL, THOUGH WE HV NV MET, AND YET SHE IS SO WILLING TO GV ME A HELPING HAND. I KNOW NOW WHATEVER I SAY WILL NV BRING HER BACK BUT PLEASE GOD LET HER REST IN PEACE
&
LASTLY, MY CONDOLENCES TO HER FAMILY
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 | May, wherever you are, have eternal peace. I know hard to face those challenges and now I suddenly realize health is more important than career and money. |
 | she don't deserve this..hell to those bosses who worked their employee like robots..should just quit and let the bosses die of heart attack instead... |
 | May, although i do not know you.
I heard about your news through my sis and friends in hardwarezone forum. You're really a nice girl and will be remembered deep within our hearts. Rest in peace for now all stress of yours shall be relieved. My deepest condolences to May's family. Stay strong. |
 | May, though I only know you thru your emails, I still feel you don deserve to die in this way, but anyway I pray may you're soul be rest in peace,,, |
 | It is too late to sharing or saying anythg to u May. Juz hope that u can hv a Good REST in heaven....With warmest condolences to May's family. |
 | deepest condolance for her family....
may your soul rest in peace.... |
 | may your soul rest in peace. |
 | I m a sceptic.So I took the trouble to verify.This is true.It happened.I was stunned.It jolted me.someone jovial and so alive, happily blogging could be gone the next moment.Seeing her childhood photos makes me cry.GOD Bless u, May |
 | REST IN PEACE YEAH MAY!!
All of us in LTA misses u so much!!! |
|  Her blog also conveniently forgot to mention something. Yes, she will have to pay back one months salary as a contract staff, but ONLY if she quits immediately on a days notice. If she gives one month notice, she dont need to pay back. During the one month, she would not have to work so hard liao.  hmmph..thats a new contract terms that i ever heard.. frm wat i know contract staff need to complete a certain period else no matter whether he/she gives 1 mth notice to resign, he/she will still need to pay 1 mth salary.. that is what happened to my current contract job too.. and I dun give a damn.. my job also staying late nights and coming bck weekends.. BUT its up to me to decide.. if I cant, I really cant.. i dun force myself.. I dun give a damn even tho my director asked me to do so.. :P
anyway to those contract staff out there, I have felt the same as what May felt too.. but always keep this in mind.. "money is not everything in ur life.. health is more impt.. n nobody will care if you are sick.. so better take a break (no matter if it is going to be unpaid).. once u r dead, money will not go with you to heaven or hell.. n the company will not lose anything.. everything will be as normal even without you in the company... "
so if u tink you cant cope with the job.. n you need to commit a certain period before you can resign, just take a break.. we r humans not robots.. there's a limit in everything.. and for May's incident, we cant blame her.. its just her time to go n leave.. May she rest in peace.. n please dun blame her again for wat had happened..its so sad to hear that.. esp when she's already gone.. =( |
 | She's in a better place now with God. My sincere condolences to her family... |
 | My name is Mark,i'm her close cousin.My sis has always been a hard working person,whether in love,friendship or work,she's very commited.
To this nick (CHCHO5) who claims that her downfall is because of her emphasis on work & money,You seriously have no idea what your talking about...I guess you haven't been keeping up with current affairs dude.
In singapore,the culture that we have,is that we are encourage to worship the "$golden-calf$"cars,cash,condos etc etc...
Not to mention getting a decentlly paid job to survive in this ever raising cost of living country,
is not a stroll in the park.
Considering the kind of competition other than locals,
that is intensifided with truckloads of foreign talents or trash competing for your job,IN YOUR country.
As for loving her job instead of just a means of earning money..
Come on......can you honestly tell me how many people are fortunate enough to work in a job they love & yet,
pays well enough to support themself or their families.
Are you living in your own world??
Maple story perhapes...
The pressure is on,if you don't already know...??Every employee is expected to multitask & be flexible if they wana keep the job.Morever my sis is only doing her best to prove herself in her new managerial position which is already short handed for a period of time (could be indicating a high turnover rate,which is the real sombre picture of the prospects of working for that company) & to top it all off,she properbly had an intimitating & inconsiderate superior (a very bad leader if i must add) who coulden give two hoots whether his subordinate could cope with the amount of workload given.He just want it done by the end of the day. From what i heard abt the working culture in HP company,they have a tendency to treat their contract staff as outcast or 2nd class citizen with few benefits but are still expected to handle the full load of the job.
& DO NOT TELL ME THAT SHE HAD THE LUXURY TO TAKE IT SLOW OR QUIT...SHE DOESN'T!!!
She needs to keep a decent paid job as to help out her poor mum who is left all alone now.
By the way,have i forgotten to mention that she's an only child, a very obedient & independent one indeed.
And if her situation haven already sink in to your insensitive numskull,i would suggest to you that it is TIME TO WAKE UP & SMELL THE ROSES DUDE... (Pls note that all i have written is directed to Chcho5)
And to end the note,to my sis May.i hope she'll rest in peace though i somehow feels that she'll be worried for her mum wherever she is now...i'll pray for you sis & i love you...God bless
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| I would like to thank (and on my cousin sis May's behalf) all friends & acquittances who send in their condolences & concerns. We truly appriciate it.Thank You so so very much.. |
 | Hi, i just followed a link to ur blog. Sounds sad to read this. I think u should eat banana to reduce ur stress level. Banana really helps. U should listen to slow or sentimental music after work. this is all i can say about. Never give up yourself for a company coz it will never think of u, except ur manpower. Good luck! |
 | I'm very shock to read this! i didn't know that they'll need to work so hard.. salute to those who really put in extra effort for their job... anyhow, MAY, rest in peace. god bless |
 | dearest may, i regret not keeping in touch with you as often as I could have done so. Although we only really were closer as friends during my 1 year in JI but it was a wonderful time I had with the clique. You were always the cheerful, humourous one with the cute contagious laughter. It is a great shame we haven't had the chance to meet up the last time I was in Singapore and haven't had a last chat with you recently. I was and still am in shock to have known this terrible news and with deepest regrets and condolences to your loving family. Peace to you and you will continue to live deeply in my memories.Love, Anne (Mingli) |
 | Though I do not personally know May, but a friend of mine sent me this article. So I would like to send my deepest condolonces to your loving family. You'll always be remembered as a friend as well as someone who was responsible and diligent in your work. God Bless and may your soul rest in peace. |
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 | Hi May friends and family, I am a stranger and will like to send my condolences to you and family. From May's blog, she was someone who is seen as responsible. I don't see that she is just working purely for money, but her attitude towards work is respectable, although which eventually causes her death.
May to you, rest in peace, you are in heaven and will be protected well. |
 | My most sincere condolences. Although she has left, it is obvious that she has left a legacy among the people who knows her. May the Lord watch over her. Rest in peace. |
 | Dear May.
A heart felt pang of sadness engulfed the moment I knew of your demise. It meant that I cannot meet the deadline. TWO managers now have to replace you.
I always thought that your job was a carefree one. I had your best interest in my mind. You had a sunny disposition, with the ability to affect all that you touch.
I knew that other than your cherry character, you had super woman capabilities, which enabled you to blog and work at the same time. In fact, this comes as amazing to me.
I was planning on giving you more work, so that you had more things to blog about. Well , the company is the centre of our universe after all.
I should say your blog is amazing, I hope you include more things about me, other than your disdain. For a start, I have horns, and I live in a fiery brimstone place.
Continue blogging. The ratio of work time to blog time should be 30:70 for you to achieve a sense of well being. I should hope that your new boss has a halo rather than horns.
Faithfully yours,
Your Last Mortal Boss.
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The author is a caring and happy person who hopes that the world would be a better place. If you believe that he is really the Last Mortal Boss, you should seek help from a psychiatrist.
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 | passerby1 wrote on May 1, '07, edited on May 1, '07 chrisgunther, whoever you are.. u must be one sick mind hiding cowardly behind anonymous nicknames n writing this kind of crap. i wish you n your family well...
To May's family and friends, I offer my sincere condolences |
 | Hi May, My Sincere condolences for you and your family / friends. For anyone who might be in the similar situation, I'm working with the same company HP as "Perm" staff and lately I did feel the same work-pressure even I had to work during weekend for unimaginable hours. I have raise this concerns to my boss but sadly he slow to response as he is also packed-up just like me. I already tender for resignation couple weeks a go and gave up my big salary since I know this big $ is NOTHING compared with my life, family, and health. I would like to share with you this words, Now listen, you who say, "Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money." Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, "If it is the Lord's will, we will live and do this or that." As it is, you boast and brag. All such boasting is evil. -James 4:13-16 (Bible verse)- Let's put hope on God who can provide you everything rather than chase for everything and we got nothing. God Bless You http://www.jesuswalk.com/james/7_patience.htm |
 | Hey guys, I managed to find this blog through blogsearch.com and I thank God for this opportunity to leave a tag on May’s blog. I’m sorry for this that has happened to May, I’m really sorry. I only came to know about this incident today (1 May 2007) after reading a pretty long article from The New Paper about May and her work. It was on the headlines of today’s paper. Personally, May has left a very deep impression on me. As I read the article, her blog entry, as well as all the tags here that you guys have left, my heart teared and ached for her. I could feel the amount of commitment she has put into her work. It’s not just for the sake of pleasing the boss, nor was it for the mere pleasure of earning more $. Do you guys know what May was working so hard for? – to the extent where she put her life into it.
She wanted to fulfill this dream of hers. The dream of taking her mother abroad for a holiday!
Wow.
How great was her dream! Many of us here today have thought of earning money for our personal glory. Just think about it. Think about what has been the focus in your life all these while. Why have you worked so hard for? For who and for what purpose have you slogged your life for, just to earn $?
May here has shown great love and filial piety towards her mum. She is a living example whom we should learn from. I mean how many of us here actually earn money not for ourselves, but for our parents? Money is just a worldly possession, guys.. You must have heard of how callous people can get just to get hold of money or just to satisfy their greed of having more and more cash; something that will not follow us once we leave the world. Money can kill. It can tarnish someone’s life just like that. People can stray far from law and be lured into unworthy temptations. Our focus in life may change with the increasing opportunities of earning money looming ahead of us. It shouldn’t be our focus in life today; we shouldn’t be worshipping money at all. Does money bring you happiness? To a certain extent, yes. But unfortunately, your happiness will not last.
Because true happiness comes, only when you have JOY in life.
Jesus
Others
Yourself
JOY when you put Jesus first in your life.
JOY when you think of others before yourself.
Today, you might say, “The world is so cruel on us. Why do we slog so hard all our days and then reap nothing? Are our hard work all drained? Where are the fruits of our labour which I deserve?”
Or sometimes, you might just sit down and reflect,
“After slaving so much like a dog, what will I get in the end? Where’s my commission? Why didn’t I see the results I wanted?”
You might be facing different problems in life, you might be troubled over who you are today, and what’s your purpose of working so hard for.
Allow me to say something.
Jesus understands what each of you is going through, simply because He loves us. God has a purpose for you today. Our God is everything, He wants to see joy in your life again. He already said, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” –John14:6
"Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved—you and your household." –Acts 16:31
Have you been walking with God all these while?
Or have you been living your own way – you and yourself?
Have we not strayed far enough away from Him?
When are we gonna wake up from our foolish ideas and foolish ways of worshipping other non-existent gods, or even money the killer?
Jesus promised us, "I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life." –John8:12
Come on guys, let’s seek God today.
Don’t drag till the day you leave the world, and you start feeling uncertain about where you would be, and you start mumbling, “God please bless me, may my soul rest in peace.”
Why not today?
For tomorrow might never come again.
Do it today. =) |
 | i think the chcho5 person abit. ahem. okays, i come from a school that requires us to meet demanding deadlines and complete demanding assignments. however, whenever we say THIS stress problem to people whom we think can change the whole thing, they give us this stupid standard answer. you think it helps? yes, you're right. work or school is PART of our life, but don't you think you people as our SUPERIORS are overdoing things? you all say, go home earlier to enjoy time with your family. i think there's a problem here. enjoy time with your work, i suppose. we reach home at 8pm as students. sleep at what time? dont tell me you spend time with your family at what, 3am in the morning? |
| (Directed to Chrisgunther)
Don't be anxious mr/ms chrisgunther,i'm sure you'll meet your "DEADLINE" someday/somehow.I can only HOPE it comes soon enough... ; p
On a positive note,i would advice you to channel your excess energy & free time (other than gloating over your staff's/my sis's demise) to your subordinates' welfare..Cause if they(managers) both bail out too,the next in line might just be you!!
Oh, i've forgotten,maybe welfares a dirty word in your company too??
Sign..due to your poor sight or ignorant,i have to point out to you that the recent blog my sis had, is the ONLY ONE she wrote this year after she joined HP.It shows your COMPLETE ignorant of things going on ard you. I shall not waste my precious breath on a midget like you anyway... |
 | my condolences..... $ isnt everything? but sadly, living in this country, MONEY IS EVERYTHING. I know of ppl who cant pay their conservancy charges for a few months & recieve a court letter ..if ppl cant even afford to pay $60/mth, you send them to court & slap them with a fine of $1000, who says $$ isnt everything? |
 | Hi,May rest in peace. In your next life don't ever ever work so hard just for Vitamin M. My greatest condolences.
Bye may. |
 | Anyone know which job agency did she get the job from? i am so gonna keep my distance from them.
My condolences to her family. |
 | I would say fall in love if u own 10% of HP, else dont even bother. Try to turn things around....become a spotlight in this situation...meet the boss of your boss or the big guys. Go and meet up with them and talk, give your inputs what steps needs to be taken by HP to improve this situation, what are the problem faced and how u can make the company look better and dont forget to send all of them a mail and cc all of those guys (the motive here is to voice out, not really trying to improve the company)....worth a shot |
 | My deepest condolences to her family |
 | To May,
Hope you can Rest in Peace......and find peace forever with GOD.... |
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 | SIncere Condolences to MAy's family...but b4 everyone panics about getting clots @work; I noticed that May mentioned hurting her knee in her last entry. That probably caused her difficulty in mobilising and was most likely the predisposing cause of the clots, but i agree were no doubt worsened by her long hours at the desk.. |
 | To May,
I felt so sad when I read about you in the papers. May you find peace forever in God.
coolcat |
 | laneneave wrote on May 2, '07, edited on May 2, '07 May had sacrificed her life for just $2,600 a month, I don't think the Prime Minister will do the same for $3.3milllion a year. Talk about money is not everything. I am sure the Prime Minister think it is.
May, may you rest in peace. |
 | sorry to hear of May incident >>RIP
life is short, so do treasure it & live it wisely & happy |
 | Hi May,
Sorry for what happen to you!
Nevertheless you have taught us to treasure ourselves. At times I do face the same problem that you had experience.
Now I learn to take things more easily.
Thanks for the sharings with my dear friends. |
 | sadden by her woes,sadden tt she's gone. i agreed so much on her story koz my hubby's been ere exact same post n stories like her. he's with HP too !!lhanddling tonnes of emails,back home till early morning almost EVERYDAY, wkends burned.lotsa meetings n deadlines to meet.but lucky him he left to be a teachder kos it's been VERY STRESSFUL for him & a strained for us tt time.NO JOKE!!
i feel for u May..:( |
 | May, thanks for your last message to the world. Rest in peace. |
 | hwngian wrote on May 3, '07, edited on May 3, '07 Hope any of the 'bosses' who read this will appreciate your fellow colleague more when the going get tough and not all talk or gold finger. Fight/Support for them when neccessary and not pile on their misery *more work, more stress* and stay in your own comfort zone. RIP May |
 | May u Rest In Peace May... |
 | punky99 wrote on May 3, '07, edited on May 3, '07 My condolence to May's family.
To some of those (especially matrus and nailed), if u wanna spread ur religion, try doing it in ur own blog or ur friends' blog, but not here on someone else blog? Its call common sense, if u still have it... |
 | My deepest condolence to her family and friends |
 | Makes me so sad to learn of this...Though i do not know you, may you rest in peace...i was in the same situation a few months back and i left...i understand that what you mean by datelines and month end, i went though them...i understand your frustrations, your helplessness...i tried bringing it up but nothing much can be done coz everyone is overloaded and dateline is a dead line...finally give up and leave giving up my completion bonus...i am also a contract staff... |
 | hi may, may u rest in peace. my deepest condolences to ur loved 1s. i'm a contract staff too n totally understand how much work we have yet not recognised. :P sigh.... i hope things will improve. |
 | I am really really sorry...May you Rest in Peace. May your parents find solace in GOD.
Will HP do something abt this? |
 | Chrisgunther, i think u are absolutely sick .
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 | May you rest in peace, May. |
 | I dunno May and I got this link from a very dear fren of mine who's also working for some giant IT company in KL. I myself was an HP contract staff b4 and now I thank GOD I left the company. One thing I know, its not thew company that put all the shit on the staffs but the CRUEL managers and thpse management people who think they rule and own the company.I personally blame them. i experienced the same situation with my previous company..shall i mentioned the company..well no harm, it NCR.Lucky me I didnt die but almost..its not our fault to love our job,its not our fault to work like mad for money..its the way of the world..no money...no career,nobody.
For MAY, RIP..may GOD Bless your SOUL till the end. For some fucked up managers and management..dont just think about the company profit,loses..its their problem..think about your staff too..they are not machines,they just like YOU!!..WHAT IF ONE OF YOUR LOVED ONE IN THIS SITUATION..would u not fight for their wellbeing???? THINK FOR THE MOMENT.
MY DEEPEST CONDOLENCE FOR MAY FAMILY AND FRENS.
STAND FOR OUR RIGHT..WE AINT DO ANY SINS. |
 | R.I.P May. This is really sad news. |
| Guys,this is what certain HP superiors has to say about my sis May..pick up from some forum...
I do not like to talk abt Ms Leong, since she has already passed on. However, I would like to state that HP is not around only yesterday, and her position is not new. If in the past, no one gets killed for overwork, then why she?
I could be guessing, but just to hear from a one-sided aspect of the death is rather bias, agree?
Another thing, if she is so busy, how she can find the time to blog? Then finally, working 8 straight hours in an environment which is her own home, and not in the office, it is really strange how she could have DVT, when she can stretch and relax in the comfort of her own home. |
| The Replies from other forumers:
Hey to be fair to her, according to New Paper, her blog only has 1 entry in the whole of 2007..
so she doesn't really spend much time on blogging..
Another Forumer:
There you have it, so busy that she can only blog once through whole of 2007.
From anecdotal and personal evidence, most Singaporeans NEVER work office hours, but have to work substantially past it otherwise the boss and colleagues take an unfavourable view of them. There is strong peer pressure.
My sympathies with the lady who passed away. Sometimes one has to recognise that work is a small part of life. |
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 | So it does say that MONEY cannot buy everything...
condolences to her familymay she REST IN PEACE |
 | Who is to blame here? HP? Or the system that was set by the goverment that had left Singaporeans to work like hell to make ends meet? Bringing in foreign workers will just worsen the Singapore job market. Living standard so high (imagine a 3 room flat costing more than $200K on a tiny island, worst if yu were to sell your flats you will be levied), salary so low! This China men , Bangla, so called engineers, are here to spoil the job market! Imagine we engineers having to live with these foreigners (who don't understand simple Singlish) salary! Enough said! RIP May! |
 | I feel extremely sad about the news. No doubt there should be someone bear the responsibility when it happened though not the 100% wrongdoing kind of blaming. Yet, I would like to raise my voice to the whole world of managers/colls, be it lesson learn or de javu; teamwork make durable great work, also there should have routine private review for each employee's career planning which could be initiated bi-directional. |
 | jowesky wrote on May 3, '07, edited on May 3, '07 May, my heart really goes out to you, wherever u may be right now, i would wan to say the same to you too if u are still around.. i know how its like to be getting what you always wanted, that big "break", though its usually the complete opposites of everything that u ever expected, and yet not being able to let go cos on the surface it seemed too good to be true and all you wanna do was just hang onto it with your dear life and be the best that you can be, hoping things will turn out for the better despite the uncertainties and sorts, but for this case, it did not get any better and instead it broke your life...i feel a lot for your friends too for having to go through it, just reading their messages and blog is enough to feel the devastation and confoundment...this happened to me once too, many years back, when i thought i landed on my "dream job", and in the end i made the painful decision of resigning and even till today i still sometimes look back and question my decision... not that i feel its right after looking at what had happened to you but it just brought back many melancholic memories and one of which was, at that point, i seriously felt my health started deteriorating which scared the hell out of me.. though with perpetual regrets, i still felt relieve i hadn't continued on that path though as good as it may seem to be...so for the ones who had tried but floundered, life doesn't just ends there, but the close of one episode always open the door to a brand new one and it gets more and more beautiful.. even in heaven.. thats what we should always believe! :) |
 | My condolences to her family and those who knew her well and love her. For other readers , lets stop pointing fingers. Just remember,none of us is immortal. Today,may left us first,but tomorrow ( or maybe this evening) , our turn to go.
Lets us not just filling our life with worldly things, but lets us also fill our life with worshipping and give praise to our creator,so that when it is time for us to go,we will not regret for what we have done in this temporary world..
Remember, our work, money, status, etc, will never be able to bring along when we die. But our believe , and faith will determine where we will go after this world.
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 | acw87 wrote on May 3, '07 I do not personally know May, but actually a friend of one of her friend. Really depress to see news like that; nonetheless... deepest condolences to her family and friends. No point blaming HP or anything. Let just hope this unfortunate episode serve as a reminder to us all, cherish everything and everyone around you. Once again, hope May will find peace & solace wherever she is now... |
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 | Dear May and her family,
My heart goes out to you.
To all the critics, I think you should stop the blame game. Let's empathize with May and her family instead. Every human life is infinitely precious. Why are we pointing fingers when a life is already lost? Do we have a heart for others at all? Or are our lives so desensitized and immune to human suffering, thanks to the recent advances in technology that documents human pain like a reality T.V. show?
People who think they know what May went through are totally wrong. The best person to comment would be May herself. I hope the critics would stop dreaming up scenarios and ‘putting themselves in her shoes’ and explaining how they would turn the situation around. Only you understan |
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